J.M. Frey

And who am I now that I'm not who I was?

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In the end, Captain America does not make the heroic sacrifice, thus further proving that Black Widow can handle the emotional weight of being a lead character. As if anyone could really forget the most quoted line in “The Avengers” — “I’ve got red in my ledger; I’d like to wipe it out” — it helps to have that line fresh in your mind when deconstructing what Widow does in the final act of what’s billed as a Captain America movie. Black Widow doesn’t wipe out the red in her ledger. No, she blasts her ledger out to the world, like it was the grisliest email forward of all time. We know from her heart to heart with Hawkeye that the shame she feels about what she’s done is real, and she hesitates when she realizes that taking down the bad guys means revealing her secrets. But she does it anyway, because she’s not just a spy anymore; she’s a super hero, and she makes a super hero’s sacrifice.
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He waited until the train was in motion to make his move—a true sign of someone who knows how to make the environment work to their advantage. Then he leaned forward. “Hi.” “How you doing?” “What are you reading?” “What’s your name?” “I really like your hair.” “That’s a really nice skirt.” “You must work out.”

It was painful to watch. She clearly wanted nothing to do with him, and he clearly wasn’t going to take the hint. Her rebukes got firmer. “I’d like to read my book.” And he pulled out the social pressure. “Hey, I’m just asking you a question. You don’t have to be so rude.” She started to look around for outs. Her head swivelled from one exit to another.

The thing was, I had already heard this story, many many times. I knew how it would play out. I knew all the tropes. I probably could have quoted the lines before they said them. I wanted a new narrative. Time to mix it up.

So I moved seats until I was sitting behind him. I leaned forward with my head on the back of his seat.

"Hi," I said with a little smile.

He looked at me like I was a little crazy—which isn’t exactly untrue—and turned back to her.

"How are you doing?" I asked.

"I’m fine," he said flatly without ever looking back.

"I really like your hair," I said. “It looks soft."

That’s about when it got…..weird.

He sort of half turned and glared back me, and I could tell I was pissing him off. His eyes told me to back the hell away, and his lips were pressed together tightly enough to drain the color from them completely.

But no good story ever ends with the conflict just defusing. He started to turn back to her.

"Wait, don’t be like that," I said. “Lemmie just ask you one question…"

"What!" he said in that you-have-clearly-gone-too-far voice that is part of the freshmen year finals at the school of machismo.

And I’m not exactly a hundred percent sure why I didn’t call it a day at that point, but…..maybe I just love turning the screw to see what happens. I gave him the bedroomy-est eyes I could muster. “What’s your name?”

Right now I’m sitting here typing out this story, and I’m still not entirely sure why I’m not nursing a fat lip or a black eye. Because that obviously made him so mad that I still am not sure why it didn’t come to blows. There are cliches about eyes flaring and rage behind someones eyes and shit like that that are so overdone. But it really does look like that. When someone gets violent, their eyes just kind of “pop” with intention—pupils dilate, eyelids widen. And his did. Even sitting down he was clearly bigger than me and I was pretty sure he was kind of muscular too, so at that moment I was figuring I was probably going to need an ice pack and sympathy sex from my girlfriend by day’s end.

"DUDE," he shouted. “I’M NOT GAY."

That’s when I dropped the bedroom eyes and switched to a normal voice. “Oh well I could see not being interested didn’t matter to you when you were hitting on her, so I just thought that’s how you rolled.”

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You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

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It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

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#do you want to know the objectively best scene of wicked or any other musical #it is is the opening of wicked like when glinda the new ruler of oz is in her bubble trying to lead her people forward into goodness #trying to construct a narrative about her dead best friend that they can hear and understand #like she is still trying to change her country’s oppressive social consciousness from within it #trying to teach her people compassion and perspective #she believes in these people #she thinks they can learn #and they’re all just shrieking no one mourns the— wickeeeeeed #evil threatened their complacent society evil lived in the margins evil refused to obey #and glinda so exquisite and determined and still crying (she died alone!) #— but still trying to find or create goodness #and then the huge clutching silhouette of elphaba in hat and cloak #defiant and dark against the morning sky #dead but not gone (via delladilly)

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Shelburne, ON – April 1, 2014

Past scholarship recipients of the Dufferin Arts Council (DAC) will perform at An Evening of Entertainment, to be held in the Grace Tipling Hall in Shelburne Ontario on Friday May 9th, 2014. Visual artists will show and sell their art. Performers will volunteer their time to provide the audience with an evening to remember, with proceeds from the ticket sales, books, CD, and art, to be donated to the Scholarship Fund of the Dufferin Arts Council.

Since 1996, the DAC Endowment Fund has given out 102 cash awards totaling over $80,000. They continue to support students pursuing all of the arts disciplines, including visual arts, music, drama, theatrical design, dance, film, arts education and more.

Local Luthier and owner of Cithara Guitars, Daniel Clark of Mansfield Ontario is the sponsor for the event. Daniel stated that, “being a three time recipient of a scholarship from the Council, I sincerely appreciate the support that the Council has given me over the years and I am privileged and honoured to sponsor the event, to raise both awareness and funds for the Dufferin Arts Council Scholarship Fund.”

The evening is a true representation of the arts as there are many talented individuals who will perform and show their work, including singers, musicians, dancers, a theatrical performance, a literary reading, art work, theatrical costumes on display and more. Andrew Cleveland a graduate from York University, Bachelor of Fine Arts, Production and Design, will make a pair of Dorothy’s ruby red slippers which will be for sale. J.M. Frey, a graduate from Theatre at Brock University, and author of five books, will be selling and signing her award winning novel. Patrick Clark, who recently completed his first album produced in Nashvillle, will also have it for sale. Proceeds from these sales, the artwork, and tickets will be donated to the Scholarship Fund.

Our confirmed lineup includes the following talented individuals: Coulter Baker, Aaron Bosnjak, Eden Cameron, Andrew Cleveland, Daniel Clark,Patrick Clark, Katie Dopp-Bryan, Ashley Duncan, J.M. Frey, Kaitlyn Gallant, Fabienne Good, Heather Halliday, Devon Jay, Kerri-Ann Paradis Hutton, and Rebecca Postma.

This inaugural event will be an evening to remember for both those attending and those performing. Tickets at $10.00/person are available at Shelburne Town Hall, BookLore, Scotia Bank (Riddell branch) and Cithara Guitars. Please support the event, the local artists, and the DAC Scholarship Fund.

Shelburne, ON – April 1, 2014

Past scholarship recipients of the Dufferin Arts Council (DAC) will perform at An Evening of Entertainment, to be held in the Grace Tipling Hall in Shelburne Ontario on Friday May 9th, 2014. Visual artists will show and sell their art. Performers will volunteer their time to provide the audience with an evening to remember, with proceeds from the ticket sales, books, CD, and art, to be donated to the Scholarship Fund of the Dufferin Arts Council.

Since 1996, the DAC Endowment Fund has given out 102 cash awards totaling over $80,000. They continue to support students pursuing all of the arts disciplines, including visual arts, music, drama, theatrical design, dance, film, arts education and more.

Local Luthier and owner of Cithara Guitars, Daniel Clark of Mansfield Ontario is the sponsor for the event. Daniel stated that, “being a three time recipient of a scholarship from the Council, I sincerely appreciate the support that the Council has given me over the years and I am privileged and honoured to sponsor the event, to raise both awareness and funds for the Dufferin Arts Council Scholarship Fund.”

The evening is a true representation of the arts as there are many talented individuals who will perform and show their work, including singers, musicians, dancers, a theatrical performance, a literary reading, art work, theatrical costumes on display and more. Andrew Cleveland a graduate from York University, Bachelor of Fine Arts, Production and Design, will make a pair of Dorothy’s ruby red slippers which will be for sale. J.M. Frey, a graduate from Theatre at Brock University, and author of five books, will be selling and signing her award winning novel. Patrick Clark, who recently completed his first album produced in Nashvillle, will also have it for sale. Proceeds from these sales, the artwork, and tickets will be donated to the Scholarship Fund.

Our confirmed lineup includes the following talented individuals: Coulter Baker, Aaron Bosnjak, Eden Cameron, Andrew Cleveland, Daniel Clark,Patrick Clark, Katie Dopp-Bryan, Ashley Duncan, J.M. Frey, Kaitlyn Gallant, Fabienne Good, Heather Halliday, Devon Jay, Kerri-Ann Paradis Hutton, and Rebecca Postma.

This inaugural event will be an evening to remember for both those attending and those performing. Tickets at $10.00/person are available at Shelburne Town Hall, BookLore, Scotia Bank (Riddell branch) and Cithara Guitars. Please support the event, the local artists, and the DAC Scholarship Fund.

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Cap’s Shield: an Avengers drink

Continuing the Avengers/S.H.I.E.L.D. series, here’s a drink that encapsulates the red, white and blue wonderfully for Captain America.

  • 1oz red raspberry Sour Puss
  • 1oz blue curacao
  • club soda

Layer the liqueurs into a 2 oz shot glass. Place the shot in the glass, then fill the glass with club soda to just below the rim of the shot glass. You can carefully tilt the glass to drink it, allowing the shots to mix with the drink, or you can empty the shot into the glass itself.

Our Captain America glass can be found here.

Other drinks in this series:

Black Widow’s Sting

Arc Reactor

Mjolnir

Radioactive

Agent Coulson

Agent Hill

Director Fury

Stark Gold

Hawkeye’s Sharpshot

It’s Captain America 2 release day!

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Between Fact and Fiction: My Too-Pratical Maybe-Blunt Advice To Writers

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What I would tell you if we met for cupcakes, when I’m high on sugar and my tongue gets loose on the reality of publishing.

Give me a Diet Mt. Dew Code Red and this would get even more real…

Natalie, speaking some Truth Facts. I think that ability to cut your losses is especially vital, as is being able to just roll with things. Editors leave, covers change, release dates get moved around, editors leave again

I do write what I love, but I also love to pay my mortgage, so… 

This is an important conversation to have. To be a career author means that sometimes you have to focus on being an author but sometimes you have to focus on having a career, and those two ideals don’t always converge.

^^Truth^^

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